June 27, 2015 by
The Joy of a renewed Male–Female Relation
Many people ask themselves how to live a fulfilling relationship and make it last. They long for a relation marked by inner freedom rather than role-playing, entanglement, misunderstanding and fighting. In order to make this dream become reality it is necessary to revise traditional convictions about masculinity and femininity.
A man and a woman are not only made up of their physically apparent gender, we also carry the reciprocal aspect within. When we start to acknowledge the dual set-up of gender identity, concepts, attitudes and behaviour need to be reviewed in order to set the power free that comes from living a truly balanced, reconciled gender identity.
This does not mean to blur the contours, but to combine two equally “valid” parts and make them work together. Harmonious and powerful relationships require not only to accept, respect and honour one’s own gender as much as the partner’s gender, but also to make peace with and appreciate the opposite gender within. This disposition for balance is reflected in the union of “Mother Earth” and “Father Heaven”, whose beloved offspring we are.
It is obvious that the kind of interaction between men and women as it has been practised for hundreds and thousands of years has in many ways reached exhaustion and needs adjustment. Renewing the relation includes to live strengths and attractive differences of the gender in an undisguised way in order to complement each other the best way possible.
Interlinking the respective abilities and competences creates new joy as man and woman are equally challenged by communal and individual missions. Sincere collaboration leaves no room for game playing and other distractions. The duration of the relationship is also influenced by the mission chosen before incarnating and the willingness to fulfill it on earth. To accept the different programs life has in store and trusting on their value for personal accomplishment as well as for the benefit of the whole is a prerequisite of living relationships without deception and pain.
Being ready to get rid of old patterns of behaving and thinking helps a lot to establish a partnership that is truly grounded in presence, revealing its requirements step by step. The state of being present makes it possible to praise every encounter, every relationship without mourning its end. The flow of unconditional love issueing from the state of being washes away attachements and selfish desires. Even short relations become a joyful part of fulfilling the universal law of love, worthy not only of a fond welcome but of a grateful and respectful farewell, too.
The state of being liberates from wanting to possess, and it gives fate a chance to offer presents. When the balance of the male and female aspects supplementing each other is managed within, it will manifest in the outside. No more waiting for an illusionary prince or princess charming. Being balanced within makes it much easier to realize which partner fits and which doesn’t. It makes it easier to overcome a partnership crisis, too.
Energy is unleashed as it is no longer taken up by tedious role play. It generates successful dynamism for working together as much as for “simply” being together. The flow of unity clears egoistic desires for limiting and possessing. Instead, joy spreads – the joy of giving each other the best in every moment – including the freedom to grow.
This joy may be unlocked and deepened by a personal mantra strengthening the ties to the self-chosen task and enhancing competences needed for achievement. Rituals and exercises like the “Shiva-Shakti-balance”, or working on karmic entanglements help speed up the process of growing into deeply satisfying relationships.