June 27, 2015 by
Towards a new balance
Many people wonder how to live a fulfilling relationship and make it last. They long for a relation marked by inner freedom rather than role-playing, entanglement, misunderstanding and fighting. To make this dream become reality it is time to revise traditional convictions about masculinity and femininity.
As a man and a woman we are not only made up of one gender, we also carry the reciprocal aspect within. When we start to acknowledge the dual set-up of gender identity, concepts, attitudes and behaviour ask to be reviewed in order to set the power free that comes from living a truly balanced, reconciled identity.
It means to combine two equally precious and irreplacable parts and make them work together, like it is depicted in the symbol of Yin and Yang embracing each other in a whirling love dance and containing the opposite element as well. Harmonious and strong relationships require not only to accept, respect and honour one’s own gender as much as the partner’s gender, but also to make peace with and appreciate the opposite gender within.
It is obvious that the kind of interaction between men and women as it has been for hundreds and thousands of years has in many ways reached exhaustion and needs readjustment. Renewing the relation includes to live strengths and attractive differences of the gender in an undisguised way in order to complement each other the best way possible.
If partners have clarified what mission their souls wish to fullfil in this life individually and communally, their respective abilities and competences will interlink the best. Sincere collaboration leaves no room for game playing that distracts from joining forces efficiently and joyfully. It becomes a vital dance revealing its necessities step by step.
When the balance of the male and female aspects supplementing each other is managed within, it will manifest in the outside. No more waiting for an illusionary prince or princess charming. Being balanced makes it much easier to realize who fits as a partner and who doesn’t. It makes it easier to overcome a partnership crisis, too.
Aligning to our own inner light clears selfish desires for limiting and possessing. Instead, joy spreads – the joy of giving each other the best in every moment, including the freedom to grow. Creative energy is unleashed when it is no longer taken up by tedious role play. It generates powerful dynamism for working together and for „simply“ being together. It also gives destiny a chance to shower us with presents.
The twosome dynamism may be unlocked and deepened by personal mantras strengthening the ties to the chosen mission and to the competences needed to fullfil it. Furthermore, rituals, guided meditations, readings and „custom-tailored“ exercises give valuable input for growing into deeply satisfying relationships, for instance, by freeing the access to personal empowerment and authenticity, and by clearing karmic entanglements that block inner freedom.